Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Men Verses Women
After reading the two essays, " How Boys Become Men" and "Gender in the classroom," I can say that from my opinion, I think that alot is true. I think men do learn at a young age to not have any sort of emotional side to themselves or they are considered "whimps". Men are not allowed to have any sort of "feminine" qwualities. I strongly disagree with this. As a women, and having realtionships with men, I personally feel that society totally is at fault for these stereotypes. Men are just as emotional as women and can't show this side of themselves. Men have to constantly boost their own and other's "machoism" to gain self assurance. But, to tell the truth, I feel that this world would be a better place if more men would get in touch with a more emtional side of their personalities. Crimes, outside of drugs, are commited most oftenly by men, how seem to be trying to show how powerful, strong, and "manly" they really are. Men wouldn't have as many problems if their mothers at home wouldn't have such a stereotypical aspect on raising them. As for me, with my son, I allow him to be himself. If he falls down, I don't say "Get up. Don't cry. Don't be a whimp." I allow him to cry and I will love on him as much as I can until he feels comfortable. I don't want him to grow up and not understand women and understand how to be undisprutive, boost his personal accomplishments, and not feel like he can't be himself and show his emotional size.
I quite agree, we are all people and we should not have to be restricted by certain traits deemed to make one gender different then the other.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your opion to about 90%.I know if i had a son i would want him to be to tough. it would be alright for him to cry over certain things and express himself. I just wouldint want my kid to grow up and be a baby who thinks ke can just cry and he will get what ever he wants.On the other side though i deffantly agree that alot of men are stubborn and will not express themselves. I think im caought in between stuborn and the exact opposite. I wiull express myself with some things, but there are just a few things that i absolutley can not say unless i am with the right person.
ReplyDeleteI agree with alot of what you are saying. Besides the fact that of guys going out doing crimes, or drugs to be more manly. They do this because they want to and thats there personality, and in some cases the way they are raised. I dont really think anyone sits back and says I need to look more manly today im going to go rob a bank, or buy heroin. The fact that society molds us into what it thinks men and women need to be is true. We3 do get alot of different aspects from our dads and moms. I dont really know where the comment came about mom's doing this to there sons, becasue mostly its the father saying dont be a baby. In some cases I was never raised this way I was raised to do whatever I wanted be manly, or sissy. There is nothing wrong with showing emotion for a guy but if your like me its hard. I have learned from society not to show emotion so even in the roughest times even if I wanted to cry I cant, It is now a built in feature on me. On the son part I totally agree I treat my daughter and son exactly alike I love both of them and I allow them to be themselfs when they get hurt or anything. But I think alot of this comes from single moms to if the father isnt around because they feal they have to teach their son that because thats what society thrives for.
ReplyDeleteI strongly disagree with this. I do not believe that boys AND/or girls grow up to be a certain way because of their predisposition or gender. Boys and/or girls will both emotionaly shut down if that is what they're taught in their environment. Children emulate their parents and tend to follow in their footsteps.
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